https://www.eviemagazine.com/post/is-comparing-porn-to-romcoms-really-honest

So, I really wanted to be fair here. Even though I’m a woman and wrote this for a women’s article, I have a lot of awesome male readers and I get that some things that are a big deal to us aren’t to men and vice versa.

I’m pretty sad about it, but my editor changed my conclusion, and that’s always hard on a writer (especially with a topic like this). So here’s the original, less biased conclusion that I wanted to get out there. Because I get it. The comparison is pretty balanced when taking the difference in the male brain and female brain into account:

Living in a fantasy isn’t healthy for anyone. Whether women are crushing on a romantic-comedy lead, or men are comulsively masterbating to porn, neither is really healthy for real-world bonds and connections. The comparison does raise a lot of questions, and bring up issues that may be different, but offer a similar perspective from the opposite sex. 

Either way, in order to find fulfillment in life and relationships we need to invest our time in better real-world endeavors to balance those fantasies that may be fun to explore every once in a while. If we did that maybe men would respect women (even those who make porn) a little more, and women wouldn’t be seeking some fictional man to satisfy their needs.