What We Can Learn About Femininity From Mary Tyler Moore, The Original Boss Babe


There’s a lot going on in the world. Women especially are being pulled in plenty different directions. On one hand we want to support each other, and everyone but then we have trans women (who still have their male genitalia) representing us in the Olympics and the Miss USA pageant. We’re told we need to be strong, but the media tends to think that means we should act more like men.

How we each individually feel about these issues isn’t the point here. We are allowed to agree or disagree (respectfully), but classic femininity has consistently been mistreated. Many teachers, directors, and writers act as if it is a weakness to be traditionally feminine.

It seems odd to write about this because I was raised to be the boy my father never had. He didn’t look out for me, he bullied and badgered me the way a man would their son because he was training me to be a soldier.

Despite this, my feminine side cannot be denied. There are days when it just feels good to wear a flowing dress, do myself up, and swish my hips. But that, of course, is not all it takes to be a woman. Womanhood is about our roles as much as it is about our psychology, biology, and methodology in life.

Evie Magazine has posted some great articles about the fallacies that modern television is pandering to women. I wanted to offer them a piece which heralds the shows that got it right, and found myself coming back to one actress.

Mary Tyler Moore is a perfect example of femininity. In my piece I note how, “Mary Tyler Moore was loving, yet not a pushover. She played roles of the caring mother and the single career woman, and in real life she faced tragedy with courage and dignity.”

My husband likes to say that I have the style of a classic Hollywood actress. Knowing the horrid tragedies behind many of them, I don’t often take well, but he always loved Mary Tyler Moore and if he sees a similar spark between her and me, that is a true compliment.

If you admire her too, or wish to learn what the heck I’m babbling about, read on:


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