Death is a natural part of life. It’s something we all have to either come to terms with or struggle. In my life I’ve known babies and children who died, and so my spiritual connection to the hereafter isn’t quite as disconnected from life as some. Even so, I find it expressly more difficult to cope with the loss of a younger person.
This too is only natural. The elderly have lived long full lives. Most have known love and offered some kind of wisdom. It is more expected and accepted when we lose an older loved one, but not so much when someone much younger is gone. This past Friday night, a long-time friend of my family died. She was just barely entering her 30s. I used to babysit her and give her piggy back rides when we were young.
She did not die unexpectedly, she unfortunately developed a liver problem connected to drinking alcohol. It is sadly the same fate her father was given up to in 2017. She is survived by her mother, Gwen, and her brother, Sean. And though she died in a frustrating way, I wanted to offer my own words to describe her life and how many of us will remember her.
Megan was a vibrant spirit. She had an infectious laugh and a sweet nature, with a bit of sass. She was very welcoming, and beautiful. Although we drifted apart as we aged, when we reunited it was as if no time had passed. She was family. She was just like one of my baby cousins, or a little sister. She was a good person who probably wouldn’t mind us toasting to her life over some root beers.
In light of what happened to her, I would like to believe that she would wish for us to help others avoid her fate. This country has an addiction epidemic. As lockdowns and mandates raged across our country, children were hidden from each other, and fear was spread quicker than truth or any virus… addiction problems increased at unprecedented rates.
Now, I’m not a preacher (no matter how much I may be trying to sound a little like one RN haha), and I don’t believe it’s my place to tell others what to do with themselves, I would like to ask that everyone still reading take a moment to examine yourself. Where are you at, emotionally, physically, spiritually? If you’re lonely or you wake up craving alcohol or some other substance, plenty of others are in the same boat. You are not alone.
Please, everyone reach out to each other. Maybe go to an AA meeting, or take a friend to one. I don’t want to get all PSA on everybody, but you know, death isn’t just a little side-effect, it’s the real deal.
Megan’s gone now, but her smile is solidified in my memory and the hearts of the people who loved her. Let’s all try to think of how we can offer some happy moments to each other from a sober perspective.