Just Fucking Listen!

I know I talk a whole hell of a lot. I could go on for days. I never run out of things to say.

Doesn’t mean I don’t know how to listen. People might not think I’m listening, but if you read my shit, you’ll realize I do.

Unfortunately having worked with more and more authors, this doesn’t seem to be common. People either listen or tell. I don’t get that. You have to be able to do both and do both well to be an effective writer.

I struggle with it. Most days I have to restrain my damn mouth. It has a mind of its own. But there are times when I get tired of leading conversation and need someone else to just talk my ear off. haha

This is helpful because when I edit other writers’ work, I have to listen. When I sit down and really dig in to find flaws in a piece to make it better, I’m not looking to have any say. My hope is the story will be so good, I won’t need to mark anything up.

That’s not how it ever goes. But a girl can dream. heehee

What really gets to me, is when I continue working with another writer and no matter how much I point out certain errors, they continue to make them in subsequent manuscripts. Why not just shit on me? I mean really, if you come to me for help and continue to do so I do expect improvement.

(My fear is that some of the people who take on my stuff could say the same for me. haha)

I’m a bit of a bitch. But a lovable bitch. One who believes in tough love. I care about everyone I work with and know coddling doesn’t help anyone.

On the flip side, I do constantly say, “I am one person. If you disagree with my changes, disregard them and move on.”

Stylistic choice yes. This makes sense. But bad grammar, no. That won’t get a writer anywhere.

Thankfully, the novel I’m helping out on right now hasn’t been like that. It’s why I took it on. Editing isn’t something I do because I have to or because I love it, I do it to listen.

I do it to help work on my own craft.

With editing both the writer and the editor benefit, that’s why I don’t charge. It’s important to listen, grow your knowledge, and utilize it for future work. Just listen. Fucking listen. teehee

2 thoughts on “Just Fucking Listen!

  1. Dave S. Koster says:

    Way too many people don’t listen. Sure, maybe they hear you, but don’t actually listen. The surest way to tell someone isn’t listening is that they don’t ask questions. I’m not talking about those empty questions you sometimes get, but the real questions that probe what you mean. Anyhow, keep being honest. Most of us have huge egos, but we need them checked by reality 🙂

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